Does only extraordinary people *make* extraordinary children?

 Does it huh?

I came up with this question not to be a question at first but maybe more as a fact? I'm not sure... 

But still.. does only extraordinary people make extraordinary children? Or to rephrase.. Does passionate people make passionate children? Or.. does people who know what they want make children who know what they want?? 

I would like to think so.. reflecting on my own situation I could say i'm creating with my so called ordinary life (not to be negative about it, just a fact) i will create ordinary children... And I desperatly want to avoid such a thing... I would love to have ambitious children with a found passion and with a clear role/mind for life.. But reflecting on just my and my hubbie I am sometimes afraid this wil not work eventually... We both are quite negative about our jobs, don't have any hobbies .. and i'm sooo afraid to be getting in a slur .. (not this year though.. 2020 was all about corona and renovations.) and in my mind there is this clear voice i need to give my kids ALL the chances they can have (cos we are no real extraordinary people - wow hold on... we are quite fantastical but.. are we real contributors to this world? No) cos I didn't get any of those chances when I was younger.. In the contrary.. I still have a low self esteem about myself and my life.. and now after 30 ish years it's going better with me and myself.

I'm likely to believe that moving elsewhere (or even to another country) will decrease more chances for my children.. Bringing them up upbroad brightens their horizons and make them multicultural.. not only when they are submerged in another language, but just another culturel upbringin then the dutch one.. cos quite frankly, i don't like to be a Belgian. Maybe cos i'm from a mixed background (part Belgian and part Tunesian) I believe the upbringing of my hubbie was far more better then my own, cos he was raised in different parts of the world (Malaysia, Suriname...) and he always could talk passionate about those times living in other parts of the world.. 

Maybe we have to break those chains.. those vicious circle that i believe i'm sometimes in.. I did not have ambitions parents for sure.. No.. that was a whole lot different! My mother only thought about 'survival', but still she was creating chances for her kids.. and that was getting me and my brother a degree at a good school, what eventeally happend with al her 'can'.. but she eleminated herself through the proces and years. And like always 'mother knows best'.. she guided me (sometimes forced) me in directions I dind't like to be, but still I would follow.

And not to mention, children absolutely take their chances and ARE privileged and succesfully for sure, when parents are succesfully.. Then I like to think at example like actors and musicians (whose kids follow in their footsteps and/or even succesful and ambitious politicians who pass around that same ambition to their kids) 

So.. I'm pretty sure my kids must learn to play an instrument, and they need to have a lot of experience with sports.. maybe they will find their passion a lot quicker then us.. And when it comes to education/School/interest I will not be 'a mother that knows best' and would love to have children that themselves know whats best for themselves.

In the end my kids are already extraordinary cos they have something my hubbie and me didn't have.. a real loving home with chances to be whatever they want to be en whatever they want to do. 

xxxMOM

love you T and A.

grow up to be great adults will ya :)

Dad and I wishes you the best!! Know that we are there for you.

And who knows what the future will bring.